How to Spark Your Child’s Habit Of Taking An Initiative
Children should be encouraged to take initiatives from an early age. As this may lead to the development of confidence as the child begins to believe in himself. It also makes the child more willing to explore.
One of the easiest ways to teach children how to take initiative is to take advantage of their boredom. Instead of them watching TV, encourage them to indulge them in activities like drawing or crafts. This will develop their creativity instead of killing it. There is always a tree to climb, a book to read, a pillow-fort to build and an anthill to look for. Necessity is the mother of invention; so if they need something to do, they will invent ways to do things. There should be no space for boredom in lives.
A very important habit that parents should have is to ask questions to their children. Begin with asking how their day was and continue until they take the initiative to come tell you things on their own. Slowly move towards asking them “What do you think?” in some situations or ask them how they feel about a particular situation like a fight with a friend.
As a parent, you cannot expect your child to complete a task with perfection; if they are not equipped with it. You might risk your child getting demotivated and not willing to take initiative if you as a parent aren’t gentle and kind. Remember, you do not have to be harsh, just convey what you want in a firm manner. For example, if you want your child to help you dust the table then you have to make sure the child has a cloth to dust; but most importantly, make sure that there is nothing precious or harmful on the table that might break and be damaged when dusting.
Allow kids to make some decisions on their own. This will teach them to be accountable for their own decisions thus; making them feel responsible. It will also give them the feeling that you trust their decision. They are more likely to trust themselves after knowing that you trust them. Believing in one’s own abilities is an essential part of learning how to take initiative. Without that, the child will not have the confidence to take initiative about anything.
Praise your child’s efforts. At least he/she is trying. Use affirmative sentences like “I know you worked hard to clear the dining table for dinner. Thank you.” This will make them feel appreciated and motivate them to work harder and ask for some task on their own, basically encouraging them to take initiative.
This is not a habit that a child can learn in a day. Parents have to learn how to be patient. Do not compare your child with another child. Every child is unique and does their work at their own pace. This means that parents should schedule the child’s day in a way that there is extra time left for the child to begin learning something or do a task like eating or tying laces at their own speed and time.