Is your child repeatedly throwing tantrums and sulking constantly? Do not worry; it is quite common in children. Contrary to popular beliefs, mood swings do not just happen in adults but also children. Now, why do children get moody? It is because children cannot express their disappointment and frustration and so use mood swings as a means to release this disappointment and frustrations.
However, as parents, you need to be patient with your children and remember that they cannot communicate as good as adults. So the best you can do is ask them questions about what they are feeling or show them things they might want. Children will need help handling their mood swings. They cannot do it alone. After all, they are children.
Here are five tips that can help you in taking care of moody children:
1. Teach Children Regarding Time
Children, toddlers, in particular, have no concept of time. They cannot handle waiting when they are hungry or thirsty. They have no idea of being patient. Often children get moody when they are hungry or thirsty. A great way to get them out of these mood swings while you prepare food or get water is by distracting them with something. They have extremely short attention spans so they will get easily distracted. Use it to your advantage.
2. Identify The Triggers
Now, this particular way will take a little time because it requires you to identify the triggers. Children are unable to express; so they will not come and tell you what is bothering them. So if your child suddenly throws a fit, think of what occurred before he/she threw a fit? Some common triggers are hunger, thirst, wanting to sleep, tiredness or being asked to do something they do not want to. Once you figure out what the triggers are, you can try avoiding them or figure out ways to deal with them.
3.Remain Calm And Show Compassion
If your child is moody, and you end up getting angry with him/her, it will do nothing to help the situation. Instead, it will make things worse than they already are. Remember to not overreact in these situations. Overreacting often gives more ignitions to bad behaviour. Don’t be mad at them for having mood swings. Try to be compassionate and understanding. Let them know that you recognize their feelings.
4.Give Time to Complain
A good strategy to avoid tantrums is to give children time to complain. Dedicate a particular time during the day, where your children can complain and you patiently listen to them. If the complaining is not finished in the allotted time, give children the chance to continue the next day during the complaining time. Chances are; by the next day, they would have forgotten about it altogether. This method will reduce the habit of complaining and whining.
5.Create A Calming Space
Make a space in the house where your child can go when he/she is upset. This could be a corner with his/her favourite teddy or some books. Some children are needy when upset; they would want hugs, affection and to be held. While others want to be alone for some time. Figure what works for your child and help them in whatever way you can.
At the end of the day, there is nothing that can replace the time parents give their children. Give your children time. They need their parents the most.